This topic was spurred by some special snowflake blogs. Those who brag about how far they went, how fast they are and pat themselves on the back.
And why you should just nod and move on.
We’re all different. I for one am not a full-time blogger. Or a part-time blogger. I don’t even consider myself a blogger honestly. I record achievements of course. A good recipe, a battle with my kettlebells, and even a fun restaurant I’ve visited. I have this crazy thing called a job, like to spend time with my husband, sometimes see my friends and do my hobbies. If I had thrown kids into the mix I know that my schedule would be pretty crazy.
So when I see someone who has a faster PR than I do, or can lift more weight than I do I just give them a bravo and move on. Because I’m not them. I’m not an athlete. It’s not my goal in life to do 1,000 kettlebell swings in a row with a 32kg bell. It’s not my goal to hike 50 miles a week in 4 hours. I’m not exercising to break a world record or win a competition.
I’m not an athlete. I’m completely fine with that. Sure, it sounds cool, especially after watching all that olympic coverage but honestly I’m not cut out for it. I could be, as anyone could with the proper dedication. I’m not willing to put forward the dedication to reach for that title. It’s not like “oh my god, it’s too late! I’m past my prime” because you can be an athlete at any age. You can dedicate yourself to a sport at any time. And I’m in awe of those who do! You also don’t have to win a race or a competition to be an athlete, you just need to be dedicated. And some of those people that are easy to compare ourselves to (aka, bloggers) are actually athletes in their own right even though they humble brag.
But if it isn’t your goal to be an athlete I highly suggest you stop pacing that person on the treadmill next to you until your heart rate is over 200. You should stop seeing other people’s weight rack as a personal offense when it is higher than yours. You should focus on why you are doing said exercise (weight loss? health? strength? Beyoncé booty?) and remember that it isn’t to beat out Joe or Jane Blogger who posted a 4 minute mile yesterday after eating an ounce of yogurt and 3 almonds all day. Remember your accomplishments. Remember when you first started and thought you were going to die? Like, physically die? That could have been just a walk around the block. Look at where you are now, and write down your accomplishments. Go over them routinely and be proud.
Not to say there isn’t a place for friendly competition. There is and it is healthy. However I’ve been seeing a lot of people really down on their personal accomplishments because they aren’t living up to someone’s (in this case a blogger) standards. “But they’ve only been doing this sport for 2 months and I’ve been doing it for years and they are better!”. Maybe. Maybe not. Does it truly matter? Will it kick you into the dedication phase of your sport? Do you need or want to be there? Are your personal accomplishments not enough? Are they stretching the truth a little?
So have your pity party if you must and then move on. Reach for that next level. Work on the crap that is hard as hell for you. Get back that “I think I might just die here on the floor” feeling. Push yourself to be better if that’s what you ultimately want. What you want might not be taking over the world (with bunnies) in the next 30 days but you might be able to tackle north America 😉